Happy Halloween!


We had a little photo shoot yesterday with friends and Halloween costumes. Silas is Link from the old Nintendo game The Legend of Zelda. It's an old favorite of both Steve and myself, plus we thought we should continue the trend of Nintendo-inspired Halloween costumes. (I made the hat and tunic, the rest of the costume was thrifted or repurposed from things we already had.) We're still trying to figure out exactly what we want to do for this holiday. I'm conflicted. I will admit that I absolutely love the costume aspect of it. The planning, the making, the cuteness. Steve and I used to love to collaborate on our costumes, working late into the night to get every detail just right. But I can leave the rest of it. I don't know yet how to handle all the candy. I don't want him to eat any of it, but I know that I have to let go a little. I've never really been comfortable with the whole Trick-or-Treat thing. Even as a kid it made me feel weird to go door-to-door begging for candy. And, like Christmas, the whole thing just seems so commercialized. Luckily, Silas is still really too young to get any of it, but I think this is our last year of putting it off. Like so many things, the challenge is finding a way to participate in popular culture without totally abandoning our values. I don't want Silas to be completely alienated from what most kids his age are doing, but I think it's also important to teach him that we don't check our belief system at the door for a night just because that's what everyone else does. I'm sure there's a way to strike a balance, we're just still navigating what that might look like. Hayrides through a pumpkin patch...Lots of baking and apples and cider...Finding ways to celebrate the shifting season...These are the ways that I hope we celebrate.

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  1. you could always just hit a couple houses and then there won't be that monstrous pile of candy. some people do a "sugar/halloween/candy" fairy that leaves a gift in exchange for candy. or in future years have a nice halloween party so the kids can dress up, have some homemade wholesome treats and play traditional games (like bobbing for apples. lol)
    i enjoy celebrating day of the dead, honoring our pasted loved ones, celebrating their lives, and celebrating the change in the seasons. BUT we do dress up and get candy as well. LOL

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    1. I need to do more research on the origins of Halloween and The Day of the Dead to see if I can find anything inspiring. I love that you blend the traditional and modern aspects!

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  2. I'm there with you. It's not "all in good fun" anymore. There's so much that is frightening or just plain gross, like it's not for the kids any more. I like the idea of blending tradition and modern too and we'll celebrate All Saints and All Souls Days tomorrow and the next day :)

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  3. We had a hard time deciding just where to "put" halloween. This year counts only our third as trick-or-treaters. We held off until our oldest was 7 but homeschool or no she knew she was missing something the other kids were into. I really don't like the candy flood (the kids all still have leftover from last year) but we're going to try being creative and give them a week with the candy then take all but a few favourites. A friend says she'll happily take our extras to work with her.
    That being said, the costumes are fun! And Silas' is so great!

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    1. My sister always had treat buckets for her kids into which all the holiday candy went. They could have one piece per day, which made it stretch a very long time! I'm impressed that you still have leftovers from last year!

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  4. My husband and I love Halloween. We decorate the house with ghosts and pumpkins, but we don't hand out candy. C is still to young to get the whole idea of the holiday and I just read on Soulemama's blog about the candy fairy trading candy for books or other fun things. I have a HUGE sweet tooth and as a diabetic, I don't need that temptation in the house. Good luck with your search for ideas.

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    1. I like the idea of a candy fairy or a switch witch. It's something we'll definitely consider if we do decide to do some trick-or-treating in the years to come.

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  5. Had a glitch and lost my whole comment, arghh!
    To sum up what I said before, my children have never
    been trick or treating, we live so far out of town
    that it really isn't practical. We have always had
    a bon fire, made fun food and just hung out. I just
    asked them if they felt they missed out and they
    told me no.
    I hope you find your balance Courtney.
    Silas really does look adorable all dressed up.

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    1. It's so reassuring to hear that your kids never felt deprived of trick-or-treating! That is one of my worries...that Silas will feel that he "missed out" somehow.

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  6. Your words sum up my feelings about Halloween perfectly. Reece will be four next week and has not been trick or treating yet. We do live in the country, no neighbours and no trick or treating at our door, so to be honest he has never been exposed to it and has no idea what trick or treating is.

    This isn't to say we don't celebrate at this time of year, we just do it differently. We hit the pumpkin patch, we make Halloween crafts, cook with the wonderful foods the fall garden gives us, read festive stories, carve pumpkins, etc. We hosted a little Halloween play date yesterday. We crafted some masks, had healthy treats and played. It was perfect.

    My husband never went trick or treating as a kid for religious reasons and he doesn't feel like he missed out on anything. I never enjoyed it as a kid, the whole thing kinda spooked me out :)

    Good luck finding your groove with Halloween.

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    1. I would love to come to your Halloween celebration! It sounds like my idea of perfection!

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  7. We are on the same page for sure! I decided since this year S knew what was going on that we would invite the pumpkin fairy to come. We only went to 5 houses on our street. Then S was allowed to choice what she wanted to eat and the rest went to the pumpkin fairy, who will deliver her the appropriate present tomorrow morning. It worked out well as she really wanted to exchange the can. We at no other time of the year allow candy. I want her to understand that there are these things in the world so that when she moves out that she will have experienced them a little and then won't binge because it's novelty. We've talked a lot about why the treat are treats and not healthy. Also in order reduce her interest in e candy we went to our who,e foods store and got a natural sugar lollipop. That's all she wanted anyway was to try one. This one was made from brown rice syrup.

    Hopefully next year we can avoid all this by doing some sort of festival activity.

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    1. Yes! I agree that total deprivation is bound to fail because, as you said, these things do exist in this world and we can't shelter them forever. A little bit now is probably better than overdoing it later.

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  8. I'm with you, love the whole costume thing but not the door to door deal. When the boys were real little, we'd just take them to grand parent's houses. As they got older, only to a few select ones. It allowed them to be part but not overwhelmed. When they got to be teenagers, they would go out with friends and usually end up at one house and hand out candy to the little ones.

    Silas is an adorable Link!

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    1. I think as we grow in the community we'll find some other like-minded families and hopefully we can celebrate together. Then, like you said, they can participate with a few select families and not be overwhelmed. And staying home to hand out treats is always a great option too. Encourage the giving!

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  9. Tracey's bon fire is the way to go. We have friends with a big field, they do a bonfire and put lit pumpkins throughout the fields with treats near them. The treats of course are little felted gnomes and the such, food is home made, they love it, they dress up...everyone gets what the want/need.

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    1. This sounds like an amazing celebration! I hope to do something similar one day. :)

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  10. great costume! I used to love Zelda!!

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    1. Thanks so much! It was probably my favorite Nintendo game! :) Loved your Star Wars costumes as well!

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  11. my son was link when he was in Ninth grade, I made the felt hat. We still have it!! Your link is oh so lovely and very brave :)

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    1. Thank you so much! The hat-making was the best part!

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